Signs of a Toxic Relationship: Are you in a trauma bond?
Posted on January 18th, 2023
Answer the following questions. Your answers to these questions may be indicative of a trauma bond. However, it's important to note that this is not a substitute for a professional evaluation by a licensed therapist or counselor. They will be able to provide more in-depth assessment and support to help you process and overcome the trauma bond. It's also important to note that Trauma bonding is a complex phenomenon and it is not always easy to identify, and professional help is always recommended.
Question 1 of 10.
Do you feel a strong emotional attachment to someone who has hurt or mistreated you?
1. Yes
2. No
Question 2 of 10.
Do you feel like you have lost touch with your own sense of identity in relation to the person or the situation?
1. Yes
2. No
Question 3 of 10.
Do you feel like you have lost touch with your own sense of self-worth in relation to the person or the situation?
1. Yes
2. No
Question 4 of 10.
Do you feel a sense of fear or anxiety when you think about leaving the person or the situation?
1. Yes
2. No
Question 5 of 10.
Do you make excuses for the person's behavior or minimize the abuse?
1. Yes
2. No
Question 6 of 10.
Do you feel like you have lost touch with your own needs and desires in relation to the person or the situation?
1. Yes
2. No
Question 7 of 10.
Do you feel a sense of shame or guilt about the abuse or the relationship?
1. Yes
2. No
Question 8 of 10.
Do you feel like you have lost touch with your own sense of safety in relation to the person or the situation?
1. Yes
2. No
Question 9 of 10.
Do you feel like you are "walking on eggshells" around the person, in order to avoid conflict or abuse?
1. Yes
2. No
Question 10 of 10.
Do you feel a sense of hopelessness or helplessness in relation to the person or the situation?
1. Yes
2. No
Signs of a Toxic Relationship: Are you in a trauma bond?
— Dr. Kelley